Some people might say that Scott Miller is a survivor. After all, he battled his way back to health from Stage 4 cancer. He is a fighter.
But that’s not true.
Scott didn't survive cancer; he embraced it. There was no battle because Scott recognized that fighting wasn’t peaceful, and healing occurs in a peaceful and resting state. The Love Cancer movement embodies just that: a healing space where we can learn from one another how to love ourselves more fully so that we can share that deep love with others.
When people aren’t sure what to say when confronted with the word Cancer, they often turn to the well-known phrases viewed as supportive—You can fight this. You will win this battle. You will survive. They’ll find a cure.
This imposed language and energy creates a hard line, win or lose space for the patient, implying that if you can't conquer your cancer, there's something wrong with you. You have a weakness or flaw. That simply does not honor the journeys of those who have passed, nor those who have embraced theirs.
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It’s time to change the language. It’s time to change the expectations that we have of ourselves and of others. It’s time to change our words.
- Replace fight with embrace: Let’s accept and support, holding each other closely. Let’s embrace the experience. Let's love and honor our cells, ourselves, and others. Let's embrace the beautiful energy of peace and love.
- Replace battle with nurture: We want to care for and encourage the healing of ourselves and our bodies, and add loving strength to a nurturing collaboration of science, love, and energy.
- Replace cure with restore: A cure insinuates a final destination. But the goal is to renew strength and energy to the health of the body, the mind, and the spirit. And this is something that should be done on a continual basis.
- Get rid of the word survivor: The word survivor, though we think of it as empowering and a symbol of strength, actually discredits those whose bodies were unable to go on, implying a weakness or flaw. Let's stop talking about who survived and who didn't, and let's shift our language and energy to support both those whose bodies continued and those who made their transitions.
A simple shift in the language, energy, and intentions that we put into the world, might help to foster the healing space around the word cancer that we all so desperately desire. It’s at least one loving place we can start.